A blended family wedding with children...
A part of something big!
To solidify and create a new blended family, it is important to have a wedding with children, or other similar ceremony that brings together not just mom and dad...
But rather the children, then mom and dad! (In that order)
The children can be the bridesmaids, the groomsman, the best man, the flower girl, basically any part of the wedding ceremony. Doing this gives them a great sense of involvement and their participation helps them understand the full affect of the union. This day is not just about mom and dad getting married. It is about the family joining two separate entities and becoming one.
Each event is different...
For our ceremony, each child had a title. The older girls were junior bridesmaids. The youngest was the flower girl. In my mind, the boys would simply be “groomsman” to keep it generic and beyond argument. Of course one wanted to be a ring bearer so we called the other the “best man”. Ultimately both boys became the “ring bearers” with his own pillow to ward. Each child had something to ceremoniously carry, the junior bridesmaids had small bouquets, the flower girl her basket, and each ring bearer a pillow.
This worked out brilliantly for our day.
Your situation will be different. However, having a wedding with children, or ceremony that includes everyone, is a tangible way to help children embrace the idea of this new family.
Find what works for you and don’t be afraid to mix up tradition. After all, your family will be creating all kinds of new traditions.
Why not start now?!!!
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